A healthy relationship is a balance of emotions, nurturing togetherness and understanding. In recent times it has become hard to be in a healthy relationship due to many contributing factors. Long-distance relationships do not seem to be working as they did in the past. The expectations of being in a relationship have also increased and changed over the years. The toxicity of relation has now become known to people, what was previously ignored is no longer being ignored. People have developed a zero-tolerance attitude towards toxic behaviour and detach themselves from behaviour that is not acceptable.
A toxic relationship is not a sign of weakness or unstable individuals. Strong and independent people also fall into the chains of toxicity at times. Relationships are constantly evolving, while a few travel towards betterment, the others are headed to failure. Many times we do not even realise which way it is headed till we are neck deep and try finding ways to keep it going. Toxic relations don’t necessarily have to be with a significant other, friendships and family could also be toxic at times to you. So how do you identify a toxic relationship? Here’s how:
The constant need to clear the air:
If you have to constantly explain yourself to the other person, there’s an immediate reason to question yourself as to why you need to do it. If you are always under scrutiny and the person is not happy with any explanations you provide and every conversation is headed towards a fight, take a step back and see if this is what you need.
There’s a clear lack of support:
No matter what you do or what you achieve if there’s no emotional support being offered, you need to have an honest conversation with the other person about it. Though we may be independent beings, we as humans are primal and need at least emotional support in life. And in cases where that is not being offered and honest open conversation isn’t helping, take a look at where your relationship is heading.
You are an independent, strong person and if you find yourself in a need to ask another person what you could and couldn’t do is a clear sign of abuse. Think about your life choices and if you feel that you are no longer in control of your life, say no more and walk out!
Signs of Jealousy and Resentment:
Past mistakes or misunderstanding are meant to be addressed and cleared, after which you move on. But if there are no signs of moving forward you are heading for a downfall. Jealousy, when you have achieved more in your professional or personal life, might be common at times due to inferiority. But, if there’s no end to the jealousy and you are constantly feeling sorry or guilty to have achieved more, think through about your relationship.
Irrespective of all these aspects, if you want your relationship to work, you need to have clear communication, stop dwelling on the past and consult someone who could help you with it. Any relationship is worth a fight if you find a silver lining. But, once you identify that there is no way you could work together, it is always better to leave.