Quite often we notice the many social media posts and blogs about red flags and such. We tend to associate them with our relationship and jump quickly to find faults in our respective partners, while we gently but surely forget that at times we are that toxic person in their life. Though we keep thinking to ourselves that communication is the key to many problems, before sitting down to have a conversation with our partner let us work on ourselves and find out what traits to avoid to have a successful relationship.
- Jealousy: Jealousy, we’ve all experienced it at one point or the other. Jealousy can be characterized as the watchful keeping up with or monitoring of something. Jealousy has unfavorable criticism yet it’s typical to need to monitor our loved ones, particularly when we see a potential adversary cozying up to our better half. In any case, there’s a distinction between feeling envious and displaying unfortunate desirous practices. Ordinary jealousy is an ache that comes on in a moment, one which we can as a rule excuse all alone. Undesirable jealous conduct happens when we enjoy that inclination and act incautiously from a position of doubt and frailty. At the point when weakness in our connections spin out of control, jealousy can quickly develop into distrustfulness and fixation and take steps to annihilate the very relationship we’re generally hesitant to lose.
- Competitiveness: There isn’t anything as awful as when two individuals who share the same objectives in life start to contend in peculiar ways. A lot of contending in the relationship isn’t solid. Attempting to push each other to accomplish more noteworthy things isn’t terrible at everything except continually attempting to accomplish the objectives as a team and as a group is significant. Contest is important forever. We began being serious when we began school and we struggled with the working environment. It is an extraordinary inspiration. Without it there would be no real excuse to buckle down. It’s a method of checking progress. In any case, contest in a relationship ought to be negligible and it ought not influence it. It’s normally individuals with low confidence, with significant hardships involved with their accomplices, who wind up contending in all that they do. It is because of not being able to build up solid limits or being unable to establish boundaries with our loved ones that create this tense situation. While having competition in a field that’s competitive is different, having a battle with your partner in everything could be a little troublesome. There is a subtle line between pushing others to betterment and pulling them down by degrading them by our ego. This is what we need to avoid in a relationship.
- Ego: With regards to the role of ego in love, we go to our ego to settle on the choices, as opposed to our spirits. The issue with this is that the ego doesn’t have any relationship abilities. All things considered, the ego attempts to control as a way to give and get love. With an end goal to secure ourselves, the self image resorts to: opposition, contending, battling, mockery, put-downs, discouragement, withdrawal, hostility, dissatisfaction, inactive forcefulness, vengeance, insolent signals, narrow mindedness, fault, rivalry, doubt, hatred and self-question. Ego is not just feelings of trepidation that caring will bring about hurt, it likewise fears that in the event that we love too profoundly, too cheerfully, we will forsake the self image idea (of detachment and self-security) out and out. Inner self feelings of trepidation, its demise in affection.
- Selfishness: In a relationship, egotistical and selfish practices can rapidly prompt clash and hardship. Making sure to put the other individual initially can be a hard propensity to grow, particularly if it doesn’t easily fall into place. By distinguishing how your narrow-mindedness is raising a ruckus and deliberately attempting to supplant conceited activities and perspectives with magnanimity, you can beat selfish inclinations.One doesn’t have to always be selfless and the giver in the relationship. But, prioritising selfish needs even after knowing that it would upset your partner requires a heart-to-heart discussion with them and open communication. As difficult as being selfless is, it is that easy to be selfish and lose the other person to that.
Identify what traits of yours are you bringing to the table and avoid being the person that is causing harm to the relationship.