The most important thing on the road to success is to know what we want, and the next important thing is to know why we want what we want. On December 31st, some of us create resolutions like – I should work out every day, or I should meditate every day, or I should spend less time on social media. We think it’s high time to change our lifestyle and think this year is going to be different. We follow these resolutions religiously on January 1st. As time progresses, our motivation levels come down. By the time we reach January 31st, most of us give up on our resolutions, and very few people still remember their resolutions on March 1st. The same story repeats year after year in spite of our strong intentions.
Not only new year resolutions, but for other goals too, we see a similar pattern. Some of us would have experienced this. We set goals with great excitement and strong intention to achieve it, and very soon, we find ourselves giving up or changing our goals. Ever wondered why this happens? Is this because we don’t have strong will power? Or is it because we are not disciplined enough? Or something else?
The main reason why we don’t stick to our goals is we don’t have a strong commitment to our goals, and we are not emotionally connected with our goals when we created them. Our goals don’t excite us enough. We don’t feel anything about them. For new year resolutions, we are emotionally connected with January 1st and not with the resolutions. Hence, once January 1st is over, we lose motivation.
Emotional connection with the goals is one of the main secrets of all the super achievers who persist with their goals till the end and achieve them. Their discipline and persistence is the outcome of emotional connect. All the top-notch athletes, successful business leaders, actors and actresses, and anyone else who achieved their goals ever in life are people who are emotionally connected with their goals.
So, what does the term “emotional connect with goals” mean? It means you clearly understand why your goals are important to you and what you lose if you don’t achieve your goals. You feel the need and burning desire to achieve your goals.
What are the benefits of having a strong emotional connection with your goals?
1. When pursuing goals and dreams, it’s common to face struggles and obstacles on the way. If you have a clear “why” and purpose behind your goals, you won’t give up your goals in the face of challenges. Even when nothing is in your favor, you search for ways to achieve your goals. Even when no one supports you in your goals, you will persist without losing your heart and eventually achieve your goals against all the odds.
2. You will be disciplined to put in the hard work and smart work needed to achieve your goals. Goals need discipline to achieve them, and discipline comes when your goals matter to you deeply.
3. You will be committed enough to stick to your goals until you achieve them.
4. You enjoy your entire journey of achieving your goals. Journey becomes a passionate one and as beautiful and exciting as the result.
5. The best in you comes out, and new ways open up. You will find new ideas, creativity and it will feel thrilling and exciting to work on your goals
6. Once you understand why, you will never say– “I want to do it, but I don’t have time for it.” You will create time for your goal and work for it.
7. You will not procrastinate working on your goals, saying – “I will work on it tomorrow. Let me relax today.” Your goal will so inspire you that you will feel like making it a priority right today over entertainment, relaxation, and anything else.
These are some of the benefits of having an emotional connection with your goals. So, how to create an emotional connection with goals? Say, for example, your goal is to get admission to your dream college.
Below are the steps to build emotional connection with your goal.
1. List down all the reasons why you want to achieve your goal. Some of your reasons could be like:
1. It is one of the best colleges in the world
2. You get to learn from world-class professors
3. College has fantastic infrastructure
4. Your peer group will be outstanding
5. College has a fabulous placement record
6. You become popular in your relatives and friends
7. You can make a lot of money once out of college
8. You bring happiness to your parents
9. You become a role model to your young cousins
There are no right reasons or wrong reasons. Just list down all the reasons that appeal to you and excite you. The kind of words you use while writing down your reasons should excite you and make you feel passionate about your goals. So, try using words that make you happy and excited.
2. Visualize how your life will be when you achieve your goal. Feel the joy, the success. Feel it like it really happened. Visualize how your parents are celebrating your success. Visualize your first day in college. Visualize all the little details – like a college campus, various departments in the college, dress you wore for the first day of your dream college, your first class, your peers, etc.
3.Understand what you lose if you don’t achieve your goals. How would your life be if you don’t achieve your goal? Do you feel like you lost something precious? Do you feel you will be missing something great if you don’t achieve your goal? If it feels like nothing to you, even if you don’t achieve your goal, then probably your goal is not right for you, and it’s time to change your goal. Not achieving your goal should mean something to you emotionally. Only then, you will go the extra mile to make it happen.
These are the 3 steps to build your emotional connection with your goals. When you consciously build this strong emotional connection with your dream, nothing can stop you from making your dream a reality. The greater your emotional connection with your dream, the higher your chances of achieving it.
Feel it and achieve it!